THIS was one of my most popular blog posts from last year, so I decided to repost it given Valentine's Day is just around the corner! I know some of you lovelies could use this reminder as we approach the sometimes dreaded V-Day.
First off, today's society builds up this one day of the year to the point we feel like utter failures if we're not attached to a significant other. It's total bullshit. What society really needs is a little slap in the face and shift in perspective.
February 14 isn't just about your "other half"—the cards, flowers, chocolates, wine, intimacy or "I love you's."
To be real, none of the things above can actually authentically mean anything without loving yourself first.
::insert your rolling eyes here. but hear me out.::
One of my yoga teachers once dedicated her entire class to the topic of self love and reminded us all that if you can't love yourself, you don't have the capacity to love others.
We've all heard this cliche saying time and time again, but, as you get older, you learn there's a lot of truth to it. The relationship you have with yourself is by far the most important relationship you will ever have. It shapes your approach to every facet of life—career, finances, communication, conflict, success, and most importantly, relationships. You can't possibly have successful & deeply-connected relationships without first respecting yourself, inside and out. Period.
WHAT'S SELF LOVE?
It's an unconditional admiration, compassion and respect for YOU—for the places that are easy to be in awe of (pretty attributes, achievements and successful relationships) AND the places of darkness (your unpleasant past experiences, failures, imperfections and unresolved feelings). Both make you who you are and loving yourself completely means being 100% OKAY with it all.
When you feel nourished, fulfilled and loved, simply by being you, you end up expecting and inviting the same in return. You'll choose situations, relationships, opportunities & actions toward yourself & others that reflect the love you feel for yourself. You are a magnet of your emotional state—if you think you're not enough, you will not attract healthy relationships, financial abundance or a balanced mind + body.
WHAT'S NOT SELF LOVE?
These 6 patterns might look like self love at first, but aren't really. Identify them for yourself and work to give the departments in which you're lacking a little more TLC.
Do any of the above sound familiar? #3 & #6 used to really hit home for me (I've had to do a lot of "me" work to no longer be stuck in these categories).
So, real talk. How in the world can you expect to show up in life, achieve what you truly want, all while giving love to others, if you’re not taking care of yourself first?
This Valentine's Day, fuck society and feeling "less than." Try celebrating YOU instead. We all deserve the love we love to give others. Give it to yourself for once. I promise that when you do, you'll stop settling for less than what you deserve and start reaping everything you ever wanted in life.
So kiss yourself. Give yourself roses. Treat yourself to chocolate, wine and GALentine time. Look in the mirror and say "I love you."
Happy Valentine's Day to us. 💞
MAD LOVE TO YOU ALL.
Thanks for stopping by! It means a lot to me.